Emotional abuse kills you one nibble at a time. It’s not like physical abuse where a big shark comes up behind you and chomps off your leg. No, emotional abuse is more like a gnat bite. You can barely see the little bugger until you feel the bite. Just a tiny bite. No big deal.
It’s a beautiful sight, isn’t it?
A grown man throwing a tantrum. Stomping around, calling you names, slamming doors.
Hits you right in the feels, eh?
Or maybe he’s the quiet type of mean. Stonewalling. Sleeping for days. Leaving for hours without warning.
However a husband’s jerky behavior manifests, most Christian wives are taught to respond the same ways:
Assume you’re the problem. Feel shame.
Assume you have to endure his behavior. Feel despair.
Assume you have to make his life work. Feel resentment.
For all these common feelings, I’ve got some uncommon alternatives. And they WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Which is a lot more attractive than a grown man acting like a two-year-old.
Have you suffered the debilitating loss of your church family? This can be a traumatic experience that takes a lifetime to process. Find out why, and how you can think about this in a way that empowers you to love more and experience peace in spite of the pain.
Do you wonder why you feel so angry and defeated about the way your husband treats you?
It’s not cause you were a closet rage monster before you got married. It’s not cause you’re crazy or demanding or that you just love drama.
He’s been stomping in your flower beds.
And YOU’VE been told that you had to leave the garden gate open in order to be a good wife and a good Christian.
If you’ve been wondering “Is it me?” then let’s make sense of your confusing marriage in this two-part episode.
Imagine carrying around a backpack full of books from high school.
You aren’t taking those classes anymore, but you always carry the weight anyway.
It digs into your shoulders. It makes you tired. Slows you down. Doesn’t let you truly rest. It keeps others from getting close.
Abuse is like that. It teaches us a lot—lessons no one should ever learn. And lessons we don’t even realize we’re still living out.
So we may escape abusive relationships, but we’re stuck in limbo, carrying the textbooks we think hold the truth about life, love, and ourselves.
Listen to this episode to learn how to be truly free from your past.
“Till death do us part.” Those words haunt you.
The enemy was supposed to be outside of your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away.
But the one stealing from and killing and destroying you is the one you lie beside at night. The one you promised your forever to.
And he’s counting on it.
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
