There is a predictable pattern of behavior your emotional and spiritual abuser will follow when you set healthy boundaries. When you know what to expect, you’ll be able to hold steady in the middle of the kickback.
Abusive religious people will use Bible verses to control and manipulate others. Let’s take a couple of their favorite verses and flip them. Because the Bible belongs to God, not the abusive enemy.
How many times have abuse victims escaping their abusive relationships heard “Don’t be like the woman in the Bible who tears her house down!” Let’s find out what that verse is really saying. It might surprise you!
This is a wonderful reminder of God’s never-stopping love for you and faithfulness to you regardless of whether you choose to stay in your abusive marriage or choose to leave your abusive marriage. You don’t have to stay to please Him. You don’t have to go to please Him. He adores you just the same.
Learn what covert emotional domestic abuse is, how it dehumanizes women and children, who participates in its propagation, why it is rampant in certain religious circles, what the cultural consequences are, and what we can and must do to expose and stop it.
You would think we’d all want to eradicate injustice and hatred and dehumanizing behavior. Especially those of us who say we love Jesus, the supreme example of this type of life. But nope. We are all (men and women included) so used to living under the presupposition that women are less-than, that we expect them to shut up and do their duty regardless of how they are treated behind closed doors.
When you’ve got a woman of faith trapped for several years in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage, you’ve got all the ingredients for a classic case of C-PTSD. Here’s why.
I’m going to tell you how I see it, as a 25-year survivor of what some would call a complementarian marriage and a current explorer in the new (to me) world of marriage with who some would call an egalitarian man. And when I’m done sharing my personal opinion, you can do whatever the hell you want to with it.
Where does all that anger come from? What can we do about it? What does the process of forgiveness actually look like? And how can we put it all together so we can really FLY FREE?
An analogy of emotional abuse encouraged and condoned by the church.