There is a predictable pattern of behavior your emotional and spiritual abuser will follow when you set healthy boundaries. When you know what to expect, you’ll be able to hold steady in the middle of the kickback.
I recently read World Magazine’s Hidden Violence story, and I knew I needed to step forward and share my experience with Bethlehem Baptist in the Twin Cities (John Piper’s former church). World’s story covered a deeply rooted problem in the conservative church of America, but toward the end, they quote Jason Meyer (lead pastor at Bethlehem Baptist) and a member… Read More
WE ARE IN A SPIRITUAL BATTLE, PEOPLE. As long as either man or woman is standing around quibbling about who gets to be the leader and who gets to follow, they will LOSE. They are the immature LOSERS. Not the Christ-empowered victors.
How many times have abuse victims escaping their abusive relationships heard “Don’t be like the woman in the Bible who tears her house down!” Let’s find out what that verse is really saying. It might surprise you!
Pastors and religious leaders, I sat in church today and heard a message that struck fear and despair in the hearts of one hundred abuse victims sitting in that room. Here’s why.
This is a wonderful reminder of God’s never-stopping love for you and faithfulness to you regardless of whether you choose to stay in your abusive marriage or choose to leave your abusive marriage. You don’t have to stay to please Him. You don’t have to go to please Him. He adores you just the same.
Learn what covert emotional domestic abuse is, how it dehumanizes women and children, who participates in its propagation, why it is rampant in certain religious circles, what the cultural consequences are, and what we can and must do to expose and stop it.
You would think we’d all want to eradicate injustice and hatred and dehumanizing behavior. Especially those of us who say we love Jesus, the supreme example of this type of life. But nope. We are all (men and women included) so used to living under the presupposition that women are less-than, that we expect them to shut up and do their duty regardless of how they are treated behind closed doors.
When you’ve got a woman of faith trapped for several years in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage, you’ve got all the ingredients for a classic case of C-PTSD. Here’s why.
I propose we burn the terms “complementarian” and “egalitarian” and replace them with something simpler and more self-explanatory. Here’s why.