Emotional abuse kills you one nibble at a time. It’s not like physical abuse where a big shark comes up behind you and chomps off your leg. No, emotional abuse is more like a gnat bite. You can barely see the little bugger until you feel the bite. Just a tiny bite. No big deal.
Have you suffered the debilitating loss of your church family? This can be a traumatic experience that takes a lifetime to process. Find out why, and how you can think about this in a way that empowers you to love more and experience peace in spite of the pain.
As the year ends, the darkness grows. Minute by minute.
Just before Christmas is the longest night of the year.
The holidays are celebrations of love and generosity and joy.
But they’re also bleak and painful to many — like women going through separation and divorce.
So how do you cling to the hope of coming light in your blackest hours?
How do you live with the dark as you wait for the dawn?
Here’s my story and what I’ve learned.
If you’re like most Christian women in confusing and painful marriages, you’ve tried everything.
You’ve read the books, the blogs, the sarcastic memes, and the devotionals.
You’ve paid for counseling, training, seminars, and conferences.
You’ve asked for advice from other couples, your parents, your pastors, friends.
You’ve prayed and read your Bible and journaled, cried, and begged.
But your marriage never changes. Or it just gets worse.
So what’s the REAL ANSWER? What’s THE ONE THING YOU’RE MISSING?
It’s simple. It’s free. It’s right in front of you.
The length of your marriage. You’ll never forget it. 3 years of holes in the wall. 9 years of sleepless nights. 17 years of pleading. 25 years of silence. 43 years of lowering your standards again and again and again.
While the past can’t be changed, and that time is set, your recovery is NOT. It has NO LIMIT. It has NO TIMELINE.
The depth of your pain and suffering do not outweigh your ability to heal. It all comes down to whether you want it.
The evidence?
Women like Marie. She found healing and transformation in community—one that’s available to you.
Have you ever talked to people who weren’t there? Imagined conversations in your head? Perfected your argument while showering or lying in bed?
I did that…and made it into a podcast.
But this conversation isn’t with just one person. It’s with tens of thousands of people. Pastors.
Because the survivor community knows the price of patriarchy in the church. We know the cost of being controlled. We know the damage of being devalued. And pastors NEED to KNOW this too.
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
