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Do you sometimes feel like a bird in a gilded cage? Christian women are often taught they need an authority figure to protect them. Is that true?
Will a marriage intensive work to save my marriage?
Here’s what I tell myself when I get anxious, can’t enjoy the moment, and I think I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop…
Emotional abuse is a covert, dehumanizing, psychological and spiritual re-framing of reality that causes deep damage to the core of a person. Survivors of emotional abuse often struggle with depression, complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder…
Let’s pretend for a minute that your relationship is like a game of tennis. Can you visualize you and your partner on the tennis court? The game has just begun, and the ball is going back and forth. Back and forth.
Once in a while, the ball drops….
Imagine that your destructive relationship is a hot, burning pit. It’s dark down there. You can’t breathe down there. It hurts down there. You’re stuck down there. It’s relationship HELL down there.
You might be sitting there thinking you need to be rescued.
Physical abuse is definable and recognizable, and most people soundly condemn it. If a woman comes forward with physical evidence of abuse, she will usually find support in the church. But what if a woman comes forward and says her husband doesn’t take responsibility for his behavior….
When the subject of domestic abuse randomly crosses the average person’s path, a number of myths surrounding this subject immediately kick into play. One of these myths has to do with the domestic abuse target, herself. What kind of woman does an abusive man target, anyway….
She wondered if she was going crazy. All she ever wanted was to be a good wife and mom, and she gave her marriage and home all the love, energy, and support she had inside. But something was “off” in her marriage.
No matter what she did, or how hard she tried, she felt like a failure…
I wrote a blog post several years ago in response to an email I received from a young, unmarried woman. This is an updated version of that blog post. I hope it is helpful not only for unmarried women who may be in a toxic Christian dating relationship, but also for women who are already married to a Christian narcissist…..
I wrote this analogy several years ago in one of my bazillions of efforts over the years to get my beloved religious community to recognize what was happening in my home and help my family.
It didn’t work. They just threw more gasoline on the fire and made jokes about it in church parking lots…..
I came to worship within your walls this morning. I came to worship, and I left with one hundred other women—every single one bleeding
I began my worship journey within the walls of another, smaller church when I was seven years old..
Where there are lies, there is evil. When I think of evil, I think of Sauron, Hannibal Lecter, and Emperor Palpatine. I don’t think of a Sunday School teacher at church…
I remember looking down at the book clutched in my hands as if it were a life-preserver. The words “Love and Respect” embossed with bold red type…
Most of us have heard of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It can occur when a person witnesses a terrifying or traumatic event such as a car accident, a murder, a fire, etc…
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
