“I’m not creative.”
How many times have you said that to yourself? Maybe you were told it as a child. Maybe you’ve believed it for years. But here’s the truth: Creativity isn’t about painting the next Mona Lisa or writing a bestselling novel. It’s about how you live, how you heal, and how you take the broken pieces of your life and create something breathtakingly new.
This month, in my Flying Higher mentorship group, we’re reading The Creative Act by Rick Rubin. And let me tell you—this book is a revelation. It’s not just for artists. It’s for anyone who wants to live a fuller, freer, more authentic life. And if you’re healing from an emotionally or spiritually abusive relationship, this book might just be the missing piece of your journey.
Why Creativity is Essential for Healing
When you’ve spent years in environments that told you who you had to be, what you had to believe, and how small you had to make yourself, it’s easy to forget that you were created to be powerful. Creativity—true, soul-deep creativity—is the antidote to that shrinking. It’s how we rediscover who we really are.
Rubin’s whole philosophy is that creativity isn’t about talent—it’s about being open. It’s about paying attention, trusting yourself, and engaging with life from a place of curiosity rather than fear. Sound familiar? It should—because that is EXACTLY the mindset shift we need when we’re stepping out of toxic systems and reclaiming our lives.
Three Powerful Lessons from The Creative Act
1. You Are Already an Artist
Rubin says, “Art is not something we make; it’s something we live.”
You, my friend, are living art. The way you show up, the way you ask new questions, the way you decide to break cycles that have been running in your family for generations—that’s art. And it’s beautiful.
You don’t need to do something artistic to be creative. Creativity is in the way you problem-solve, the way you nurture relationships, the way you reimagine your life after leaving abuse. You are already an artist because you are actively creating your own story.
2. Perfection is a Lie
Waiting for things to be “perfect” before you begin? That’s just fear in a fancy dress.
How many times have you held yourself back because you didn’t feel “ready”? Healing isn’t about being ready—it’s about being willing.
Willing to step into the unknown.
Willing to try.
Willing to trust that God can do something beautiful with your broken pieces.
Perfectionism is a control mechanism we learned in toxic environments. It kept us small. It kept us quiet. But healing requires us to let go of the illusion of perfection and embrace the messy, beautiful, creative process of rebuilding our lives.
3. The Magic is in the Process
We were taught that the goal of life is to get it “right.”
But what if life isn’t about achieving some perfect outcome? What if it’s about being in it—the experimenting, the growing, the failing, the learning, the rising again?
That’s where freedom is. That’s where healing is. The creative process is messy, unpredictable, and filled with surprises—just like life. And that’s what makes it so powerful.
Why You Need to Read This Book WITH Us
Could you read this book on your own? Absolutely. But growth is so much richer when you do it in community.
That’s why I want YOU to join us in Flying Higher this month. Inside our group, we’re not just reading The Creative Act—we’re applying it to our healing, our faith, and our lives. We’re talking about what it means to create a new identity after leaving an abusive relationship. We’re challenging the lies that kept us small. And we’re supporting each other as we step into the fullness of who we were always meant to be.
And in line with our focus on creativity, we’ve got a class coming up on how to use art to heal, as well as a class on how to write your story in a book.
Flying Higher isn’t just a book club. It isn’t just a course. It isn’t just a study. It’s a movement. And I want you in it!
Your Next Step
Here’s what I want you to do: Go to joinflyinghigher.com and join us inside Flying Higher.
Don’t wait. Don’t let fear or self-doubt talk you out of it. Your life is your masterpiece. And it’s time to start creating it on YOUR terms.
I love you. I’m cheering for you. And I can’t wait to see you inside Flying Higher.
Let’s do this together.
XOXO,
Natalie
