Category: Boundaries

Your Ex, His Family, His Girlfriend, Heck, His Entire Orbit

Your Ex, His Family, His Girlfriend, Heck, His Entire Orbit

Is being “nice” to your ex keeping you stuck in his orbit? In this episode, my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger and I peel back the layers on everything related to your ex.

We tackle the sticky, icky, post-divorce drama: how to set boundaries, why you don’t owe him or his people anything, and how to stay in your lane.

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Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!)

Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!) [Episode 347]

In this episode, we’re taking a look at the classic emotional abuse push-pull cycle that makes us feel like we’re starring in a soap opera we never auditioned for.

This one’s for the Christian woman who’s been there, twisting herself into a holy pretzel trying to keep the peace, hold the family together, and love like Jesus while getting emotionally sucker-punched by someone who claims to love her.

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Breaking Free from Narcissistic Moms and Spouses Without the Guilt Bound by Blood or Vows

Breaking Free from Narcissistic Moms and Spouses Without the Guilt Bound by Blood or Vows [Episode 345]

Is it ever okay to walk away from your own mother… or your husband? (Cue the gasps from the peanut gallery clutching their pearls.) If you grew up in church culture, you probably heard that honoring your parents and submitting to your husband meant swallowing abuse with a smile. But guess what? That’s not actually what Jesus had in mind.

In this episode, I sit down with Christian counselor and author Kris Reese (yes, the YouTube powerhouse with over 476,000 subscribers) to dismantle the toxic myths that keep Christian women chained to destructive relationships.

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Is Teaching Boundaries Victim Blaming?

Is Teaching Boundaries Victim Blaming? [Episode 264]

Is teaching survivors how to have boundaries the equivalent of victim blaming? I’ve seen this topic come up again and again, and I thought it was time I stated what I believe about it. The bottom line is that I believe that boundaries is an essential tool in a survivor’s toolbox. I also believe abuse is never, ever the survivor’s fault. Those two beliefs can go hand in hand nicely, and I’m going to show you how.

Join me as I explain my stance, why it’s important, and what McDonald’s burgers and fries have to do with the whole sordid affair.

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A Story About Letting Go

A Story About Letting Go [Episode 234]

“Till death do us part.” Those words haunt you.

The enemy was supposed to be outside your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away. 

But the one stealing from and killing and destroying you is the one you lie beside at night. The one you promised your forever to.

And he’s counting on it.

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Setting Boundaries with Adult Children

Setting Boundaries with Adult Children [Episode 212]

What does showing up for your children mean once they are adults? It is selfish to “let them go,” make mistakes, and struggle as they make their own way in the world? Also, why in the world would an abuser file for divorce from his victim? Isn’t it usually the other way around?

Natalie is back answering listener questions, and her insights will encourage and support you.

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