When you’ve got a woman of faith trapped for several years in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage, you’ve got all the ingredients for a classic case of C-PTSD. Here’s why.
I propose we burn the terms “complementarian” and “egalitarian” and replace them with something simpler and more self-explanatory. Here’s why.
An analogy of emotional abuse encouraged and condoned by the church.
A reader asks: “Does love really conquer all? How do we know when or if we should stop trying to love our abuser?”
How would you feel if you found out much of what you had been taught your entire life about marriage and male/female relationships was a lie?
Emotional abuse that involved another person using God or His Word as a weapon of control is also called SPIRITUAL ABUSE, and this type of abuse is horrific in its potential to destroy one’s faith in God.
We erase mistakes. We delete irrelevant material. We edit out unimportant points.
But have you ever been erased by someone?
There was once a Christian woman who got married. Shortly after her wedding day, she was attacked by her husband. He took her dignity and reputation, shamed her, blamed her, treated her like his property, and left her half-dead, alone in her home.
Someone who is truly sorry will not make excuses, blame you or something else, rationalize their behavior, or justify what they did. If a person is doing any of those things, they are not sorry. Period.
Reconciliation is not a requirement. It’s the desired outcome, but it can only truly take place when four things have happened.