She wondered if she was going crazy. All she ever wanted was to be a good wife and mom, and she gave her marriage and home all the love, energy, and support she had inside. But something was “off” in her marriage. No matter what she did, or how hard she tried, she felt like a failure. They couldn’t seem… Read More
There is a predictable pattern of behavior your emotional and spiritual abuser will follow when you set healthy boundaries. When you know what to expect, you’ll be able to hold steady in the middle of the kickback.
I recently read World Magazine’s Hidden Violence story, and I knew I needed to step forward and share my experience with Bethlehem Baptist in the Twin Cities (John Piper’s former church). World’s story covered a deeply rooted problem in the conservative church of America, but toward the end, they quote Jason Meyer (lead pastor at Bethlehem Baptist) and a member… Read More
Pastors and religious leaders, I sat in church today and heard a message that struck fear and despair in the hearts of one hundred abuse victims sitting in that room. Here’s why.
Learn what covert emotional domestic abuse is, how it dehumanizes women and children, who participates in its propagation, why it is rampant in certain religious circles, what the cultural consequences are, and what we can and must do to expose and stop it.
You would think we’d all want to eradicate injustice and hatred and dehumanizing behavior. Especially those of us who say we love Jesus, the supreme example of this type of life. But nope. We are all (men and women included) so used to living under the presupposition that women are less-than, that we expect them to shut up and do their duty regardless of how they are treated behind closed doors.
When you’ve got a woman of faith trapped for several years in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage, you’ve got all the ingredients for a classic case of C-PTSD. Here’s why.
I propose we burn the terms “complementarian” and “egalitarian” and replace them with something simpler and more self-explanatory. Here’s why.
Where does all that anger come from? What can we do about it? What does the process of forgiveness actually look like? And how can we put it all together so we can really FLY FREE?
An analogy of emotional abuse encouraged and condoned by the church.