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Mar 25th, 2020 — Episode 59 - Hope and Healing After Trauma
Mar 23rd, 2020 — Three Ways Losing Control Can Bring Peace
Mar 18th, 2020 — Episode 58 - Exchanging Abusive Faith for True and Simple Faith
Mar 11th, 2020 — Episode 57: Survivor Story - Debby
Mar 9th, 2020 — Why You're Probably Not Co-Dependent (And You've Got Super-Powers Instead!)
Mar 4th, 2020 — Episode 56 - Questions About Divorce
Feb 26th, 2020 — Episode 55 - Parenting Through Trauma
Feb 24th, 2020 — How Emotional and Spiritual Abuse Prevents Women From Growing Up (and the two mind-shifts you need to change that!)
Feb 19th, 2020 — Episode 54 - Reclaiming Your SELF After Abuse
Feb 16th, 2020 — Can Divorce be Life Saving? Yes!
Feb 12th, 2020 — Episode 53 - The Underlying Beliefs That Keep Women of Faith Stuck in Emotional Abuse
Feb 10th, 2020 — Parenting in the Fog of Emotional and Spiritual Abuse
Feb 5th, 2020 — Episode 52 - Low-Cost Ways to Heal, Responding to "Two Sides to Every Story," And More
Jan 29th, 2020 — Episode 51 - Can My Alcoholic Husband Change? And HELP! My Ex is Dating a Flying Free Sister!
Jan 22nd, 2020 — Episode 50-When Abuse and Our Faith are Tangled Up Together
Jan 15th, 2020 — Episode 49 - Survivor Story: Becky's Story of Overcoming Abuse
Jan 8th, 2020 — Episode 48 -Listener Questions – Homeschooling Post-Divorce, and Can I Leave if He’s Changing?
Jan 1st, 2020 — Episode 47 - Practical Tips for Facing the New Year
Dec 27th, 2019 — Episode 46 - Self-Advocacy: A Key to Your Healing After Emotional or Spiritual Abuse
Dec 18th, 2019 — Bonus Episode Two with Bob and Polly Hamp: Reclaiming Your Life After Abuse
Dec 17th, 2019 — The Abuser God is the Ultimate Wolf in Sheep's Clothing
Dec 10th, 2019 — Episode 45 - How Our Female Bodies Reflect God's Glory: Interview with Christy Bauman
Dec 5th, 2019 — What Modern Preachers Would Tell God When He Divorced Israel
Dec 2nd, 2019 — Episode 44 - Coping Through the Holidays
Nov 27th, 2019 — Experiencing the Holidays Through the Lens of Suffering
Nov 25th, 2019 — Episode 43 - When Abusers Demand Reconciliation
Nov 11th, 2019 — Episode 42 - Finding the Right Man and the Right Church
Nov 10th, 2019 — Possible Responses when Christians Defend Abusers on Social Media
Nov 8th, 2019 — How Christians Defend Their Favorite Abusers on Social Media
Nov 6th, 2019 — Wes Feltner's Character is Exposed in His Sermon and His Response
Oct 30th, 2019 — Episode 41 - Why Abuse and Porn Go Hand in Hand
Oct 29th, 2019 — How Do I Trust God with My Kids?
Oct 24th, 2019 — Episode 40 - Calling the Church to Compassion
Oct 22nd, 2019 — Crazy Conversations (that are actually abuse!)
Oct 16th, 2019 — Episode 39 - Help! I'm Addicted to a Destructive Relationship!
Oct 7th, 2019 — BONUS Episode One: Commentary on the Caring Well Conference
Oct 1st, 2019 — Episode 38 - Interview with Patrick Doyle on Coping with Betrayal from Church, Family, and Friends
Sep 25th, 2019 — Episode 37 - What if You're Starved for Affection?
Sep 18th, 2019 — Episode 36 - He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not
Sep 11th, 2019 — Episode 35 - Shame Busting Your Divorce
Sep 6th, 2019 — Let's Learn the "Duck Duck Grey Rock" Game!
Sep 4th, 2019 — Episode 34 - Breaking Destructive Relationship Patterns
Aug 28th, 2019 — Episode 33 - Busting Myths About Singleness After Divorce
Aug 21st, 2019 — Episode 32 - Narcissistic Abuse in Your Family of Origin
Aug 14th, 2019 — Episode 31 - Yikes! What if I'M the Narcissist!
Aug 11th, 2019 — Why the Church Rejects Emotional Abuse Victims (and what you can and can't do about it!)
Aug 7th, 2019 — Episode 30 - Taking Back Your Life from the Grip of Abuse
Aug 2nd, 2019 — Why the Marriage Books Don't Work
Jul 31st, 2019 — Episode 29 - Learning to Love the Bible Again
Jul 17th, 2019 — Episode 28 - The Benefits of Merciful Divorce
Jul 10th, 2019 — Episode 27 - Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Jul 7th, 2019 — In Which I Dissect a Letter From an Abuser Who Wants to Keep His Target Under His Thumb
Jul 5th, 2019 — Episode 26 - THIS is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like (The podcast interview)
Jul 1st, 2019 — This is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like
Jun 26th, 2019 — Episode 25 - Three Survivors Share Their Experiences with Flying Free
Jun 24th, 2019 — A Lesson in Boundaries - When Someone's Gate Shuts in Your Face
Jun 20th, 2019 — Episode 24 - Parenting Traumatized Children (Part Two)
Jun 13th, 2019 — Episode 23 - Co-Parenting with an Emotional Abuser
Jun 7th, 2019 — Episode 22 - Should You Keep Hoping for Change? (and other questions!)
May 30th, 2019 — Episode 21 - The Role the Church Plays in Emotional Abuse
May 24th, 2019 — Episode 20 - Some Differences Between a Normal Marriage and a Dysfunctional Marriage
May 17th, 2019 — Episode 19 - Sacred Self-Care with Sarah McDugal
May 10th, 2019 — Episode 18 - Forgiving Abusers and Healing Raw Emotions
May 7th, 2019 — Christians Say the Darndest Things (A Series of Unfortunate Cliches) - 01
May 2nd, 2019 — Episode 17 - What Does Surrendering to God Look Like in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?
Apr 29th, 2019 — A Week in the Life of an Emotional Abuse Survivor
Apr 25th, 2019 — Episode 16 - The Burden of Having to Be Perfect
Apr 18th, 2019 — Episode 15 - Dealing with an Overwhelming Workload and No Support
Apr 17th, 2019 — A Thank You Letter to the False Church (and one for the True Church too)
Apr 9th, 2019 — Episode 14 - Four Things You Need to Know to Make Good Decisions for Yourself
Apr 3rd, 2019 — Episode 13 - What Happens When You Set Boundaries?
Apr 1st, 2019 — A Glass of Lemonade with a Mouse Turd at the Bottom
Mar 26th, 2019 — Episode 12 - Defining and Setting Boundaries
Mar 19th, 2019 — Episode 11 - Emotional Abuse Q&A
Mar 18th, 2019 — A New Satire Series (Because We all Need to Laugh at the Insanity of Abuse Sometimes)
Mar 11th, 2019 — Episode 10 - What to Look for in a Counselor
Feb 20th, 2019 — Episode 9: Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible with Cindy Burrell
Feb 13th, 2019 — Episode 8: Strategies for Coping with Emotional Abuse
Feb 12th, 2019 — When the Queen Gets Rejected (A Story to Help You See Who You Really Are!)
Feb 6th, 2019 — Episode 7: Without This One Thing, Your Relationship Can't be Healthy
Jan 29th, 2019 — Episode 6: The Insanity of Relationships with Fools
Jan 23rd, 2019 — Episode 5: Spiritual Abuse in the Church—Interview with Jimmy Hinton
Jan 16th, 2019 — Episode 4: Is Suffering One of God's Purposes in Marriage?
Jan 9th, 2019 — Episode 3: What is at the Root of Abuse in the Home and Church?
Dec 29th, 2018 — Episode 2: The One Question to Ask Yourself in 2019
Dec 29th, 2018 — Episode 1: How Can You Tell if Your Abusive Partner Has Changed? Interview with Bob Hamp - 001
Dec 13th, 2018 — Why Abuse Flourishes in Some "Christian" Marriages (and Churches Too!)
Nov 30th, 2018 — Should You Stay or Should You Go? (How to Make a Good Decision!)
Nov 21st, 2018 — Divorced or Separated (or maybe just lonely)? Take These Four Truths Into Your Holiday Season
Nov 14th, 2018 — Why Partnership is the Key to a Healthy Marriage (and what to do if you don't have one!)
Oct 10th, 2018 — Taking Care of Yourself Honors Your Creator
Sep 30th, 2018 — How Tolerating the Disapproval of People Sets You Free
Sep 20th, 2018 — Learn to Advocate for Yourself (and How This is Key to Your Healing!)
Sep 16th, 2018 — How Fake Christianity (False Piety) is Destructive
Aug 29th, 2018 — What Does God Say About Emotional Abuse?
Jun 11th, 2018 — The Crazy Things Your Pastor or Bible Counselor Told You to Do In Your Abusive Relationship
May 1st, 2018 — Message to a Baptist Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today
Apr 26th, 2018 — You've Got Ten Strengths That Will Help You Find Freedom
Apr 19th, 2018 — What Kind of Woman Does an Abusive Man Go For?
Apr 12th, 2018 — Three Things I'd Do Differently When Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Marriage
Apr 6th, 2018 — Divorce is Like Death
Mar 29th, 2018 — How to Know if Your Marriage Crosses the Line From Normal to Abusive
Mar 2nd, 2018 — Seven Predictable Things Your Emotional Abuser Does When You Set Boundaries
Feb 25th, 2018 — Bethlehem Baptist Church Is Not a Safe Church for Women in Emotionally Abusive Relationships
Feb 17th, 2018 — Desiringgod.org Blames Women for "Marriages Made in Hell"
Feb 7th, 2018 — Spiritual Abuse is Using the Bible as a Weapon of Control
Jan 29th, 2018 — The Grace of Jesus is for You Regardless of Your Marital Status
Jan 25th, 2018 — What is Covert Emotional Domestic Abuse?
Jan 9th, 2018 — Linking Arms to STOP the Emotional and Spiritual Abuse of Women of Faith
Jan 3rd, 2018 — Why Emotional and Spiritual Abuse Causes C-PTSD
Dec 19th, 2017 — Complementarian vs. Egalitarian
Nov 16th, 2017 — Dealing with Anger Over Hurt (and What Forgiveness is Really About!)
Oct 26th, 2017 — A Story about Sheep, Wolves, Hired Hands, and a Shepherd
Sep 19th, 2017 — Four Ways to Respond to Emotional Abuse
Aug 8th, 2017 — What Would "They" Say if You Were Married to This?
Jul 27th, 2017 — Ten Steps Out Of Relationship Hell
Jul 12th, 2017 — How Emotionally Abusive Men Are Like Six-Year-Old Bullies
Jun 29th, 2017 — Was it Really That Bad? And Maybe He'll Change?
May 24th, 2017 — What Does Love Look Like When You're Married to an Emotionally Abusive Spouse?
Apr 22nd, 2017 — Does Decision Making Paralyze You?
Mar 20th, 2017 — The Secret to Tolerating Disapproval
Mar 12th, 2017 — What You Need to Know to Break Free From the Oppression of Patriarchy
Feb 26th, 2017 — Three Ways to Reinforce Your "No" With a Destructive Partner
Feb 15th, 2017 — How Will You Know Your Relationship is Over?
Feb 9th, 2017 — Ten Women Who Got Out
Feb 2nd, 2017 — Why You SHOULD Have Trust Issues!
Jan 21st, 2017 — Who Burned the House Down?
Jan 18th, 2017 — Where Does God Fit Into My Toxic Marriage?
Jan 7th, 2017 — How to Go From Crawling to Flying After Living with Emotional and Spiritual Abuse
Jan 1st, 2017 — When Right is Wrong and Wrong is Right
Jul 24th, 2016 — When You are Erased
Jul 21st, 2016 — A Twist on the Good Samaritan
Apr 18th, 2016 — The "God Hates Divorce" Lie
Apr 15th, 2016 — Why It's Normal for Emotional Abuse Targets to be Angry
Mar 21st, 2016 — Three Things to Put in Writing (and Three Reasons Why)
Mar 11th, 2016 — Rushing Reconciliation is Rarely Rewarding
Mar 8th, 2016 — How Can You Tell if Someone is Sorry - For Real?
Mar 3rd, 2016 — To Forgive Doesn't Automatically Mean To Reconcile
Feb 25th, 2016 — Misogyny: An Epidemic From Hell
Feb 18th, 2016 — The One Sure Sign You are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Feb 9th, 2016 — Three Nasty Things (some) Women are Saying About Naghmeh
Feb 5th, 2016 — Deliver Us From Evil
Dec 22nd, 2015 — I Don't Pray My Kids Will Do Great Things for God Anymore
Oct 23rd, 2015 — Seven Ways to Love Difficult People
Oct 21st, 2015 — How Can We Be Loving Without Being Manipulated?
Oct 16th, 2015 — Three Things You Should Know About Healthy Boundaries
Sep 14th, 2015 — The Temptation to Self-Harm by Cutting
Apr 14th, 2015 — How God's Word to Everyone Becomes Personal to Me
Mar 6th, 2015 — Do Women Get Mail From God?
Mar 3rd, 2015 — Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire
Feb 17th, 2015 — Deal Breakers: Advice to Single Women
Oct 9th, 2014 — Help! Conversations with a Fool Go Nowhere!
Sep 30th, 2014 — How Do You Know if Someone You Care About is a Fool?
Sep 24th, 2014 — How to Relate to a Fool
Aug 7th, 2014 — What to Do with the Fools and Pharisees in Your Life
Jul 28th, 2014 — Should Christian Wives Submit to Husbands No Matter What? Part Three
Jul 23rd, 2014 — Should Women Submit No Matter What? (Part Two)
Jul 21st, 2014 — Should Christian Wives Submit to Husbands No Matter What? (Part One)
Jul 17th, 2014 — The Role of Women in Their Own Destruction
Jun 19th, 2014 — Am I Being Selfish to Meet My Needs?
Apr 3rd, 2014 — Living with a Chronically Self-Centered Spouse
Nov 9th, 2012 — Got Poked in the Eye by Accidental Pharisees
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